Beards are like snowflakes, there are not 2 exactly the same. I've noticed that facial hair tells YOU how it should be groomed, not the other way around. While you can tame it by using oils such as OBC, it's your style that cannot be duplicated. The folks over at The Art of Manliness has a great article about how others perceive your manly mane. Check out the full article below:
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/03/25/facial-hair-signal/